The following are Valentine's Day tips from the American Academy of
Pediatrics (AAP).
- Use plenty of positive and encouraging words with your child. Try to avoid
using sarcasm or mockery and get rid of put-downs from the words you use as a
parent. Children often don’t understand your purpose, and if they do, these
messages can create negative-ways of talking and connecting with each
other.
- Make an extra effort to set a good example about how to connect and talk
with other people at home and in public. Use words like "I'm sorry," "please,"
and "thank you."
- Respond promptly and lovingly to your child's physical and emotional needs.
Be available to listen
to your child when he/she wants to talk with you even if it’s not the best time
for you. Ask your child "How was your day? - and listen to the answer.
- When your child is angry,
grouchy, or in a bad mood, give him a quick hug, cuddle, pat, secret nod or
other sign of affection he responds to and then consider talking with him about
it when he’s feeling better.
- Use non-violent forms of discipline.
Parents should start using both rewards and restrictions many years before
adolescence to help establish ways to encourage strengths and address
concerns during the teenage years. Allowing children of any age to constantly
break important rules without being disciplined only encourages more rules to
not be followed.
- Make plans to spend time alone with your young child or teen doing something
she enjoys on a regular basis. Encourage your child to be active by going on
walks, bicycle riding, or playing ball with her. Consider sending a Valentine’s
Day card to your older child or teen. Think about make Valentine’s Day cards
together with your preschool or younger school age child.
- Mark family
game nights on your calendar so the entire family can look forward to having
ways to enjoy spending time together. Put a different family member's name under
each date, and have that person choose which game will be played that
evening.
- Consider owning pet if
possible. Having a pet can help make some children, especially those with chronic
illnesses and disabilities, feel better by increasing their physical
activity, enhancing their overall feelings, and offering another way to
connect with someone they care about.
- One of the best ways to have your child learn more about good
food choices is to encourage him to cook
with you. Let him get involved in the entire process, from planning the menus to
shopping
for ingredients to the actual food preparation and its serving. It is wonderful
when families
eat together as much as possible. Good food, good conversations.
- As your child grows up, she'll spend most of her time improving upon a
variety of skills and abilities that she gains in all areas of her life. You
should help her as much as possible by encouraging her and providing the tools
and teaching she needs. Start reading to your child beginning at six months. Avoid
TV in the first two years, monitor and watch TV with your older children and
use TV time as one topic for conversation time with your children. Limit
computer and video games.
- Your child's health depends a lot on the care and support you offer during
his early years. By taking your child to the doctor regularly for well
child or preventive health care visits, teaching him how to be safe from
injuries, providing a healthy and nutritious diet, and encouraging good amounts
of sleep, physical
activity, and exercise throughout childhood, you help protect and strengthen his
mind and body.
- Help your child foster positive relationships with friends,
siblings
and members of the community. Consider inviting friends or neighbors to spend
time drinking tea, having a meal, playing a game, or helping others in need.
Encourage your child to play sports or be involved in activities that show team
work.
- One of your most important gifts as a parent is to help your child develop
self-esteem.
Your child needs your steady support and help to discover his strengths. He
needs you to believe in him as he learns to believe in himself. Loving him,
spending time with him, listening to him and celebrating lessons learned from
his mistakes and successes are all part of this process.
- Don't forget to say, "I love you" to children of all ages!
No comments:
Post a Comment